I am, and I'm sure you are too unless you're in denial. Being attracted to someone is normal, and
just because you’re married you don’t STOP having crush on other people. You can’t
control who you’re attracted to, but you can control your actions with the
person. Being attracted to someone while in a relationship, is just admiring
the view of someone besides your spouse. Being attracted to someone is our
natural biological function it’s unavoidable, but it’s NOT love. So being attracted
to someone other than your spouse is totally fine in my book.
Are you comfortable with talking about your
attractions with your spouse? By telling your spouse you are being completely
honest and you won’t be as tempted to do something sneaky. But, if your spouse
is extremely jealous then….hmmmmm maybe this isn’t a good idea. Your spouse
should be able to listen to you without judgment. The conversation can be very casual,
for example “Hey, Mitch, I find so-and-so handsome”. Having this conversation
with your spouse on a regular basis can be very healthy for your relationship. Being
able to express yourself freely in your relationships and understanding that you’re
both human. A healthy relationship starts with knowing that you and your spouse
can communicate on a mature level.
Marriage is a Marathon and we’re still running.
Bye for now,
1 comment:
Just because you're married doesn't mean you're blind. Looking and/or admiring is one thing... acting on it is another.
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